JustLj in December

The Traditional Blog Post

The Oxford Dictionary defines tradition as the following:

The transmission of beliefs, statements, customs, etc., from generation to generation; the fact of being passed on in this way.

December is what I would call the month of tradition. Everyone has traditions centered around and for this month. With family. With friends. Or even just with ourselves. Tradition is a powerful term as it can give a sense of nostalgia, stress, and frustration, as well as the purest sentiment of happiness. This month also can be a mark and trigger for loss to many. It is a fickle time of year that can be downright difficult to navigate.

My family doesn’t have many traditions, especially as us seven siblings have gotten older. As a child, I don’t recall any family-held traditions, but in my later teens and up to now, we have the traditional game night on Christmas Eve, where we play board games and card games as a family. This tradition is a cherished one, in my opinion, and brings togetherness to our large family. However, as I have been reminded this year, there has also been the less joyous tradition of my sister’s health spiking negatively. Something about the holidays really does a number on my sister’s weak immune system. Over the last several years, she has more often or not had to be taken to the hospital right before, during, or right after Christmas.

This has caused her children and the rest of my family to worry and keep our guard up just in case. To me, this has been much more noticeable in her eldest son this year. He is on edge and just full of worry. Tradition is good, but in this way, it is powerful. Tradition is created to teach habits into memory, and globally, Christmas/the holidays is the longest-standing tradition, and I believe this is why we center so many good and bad traditions around this month.

When setting and engaging in traditions, we need to remember how fickle and powerful they truly are. Take another lesser family tradition of mine, mostly because me my Mom and my sister watch it a lot whenever outside of the holidays, watching Fiddler on the Roof. As a kid, my favorite part was singing along with “If I Were a Rich Man,” but as I got older and my appreciation for good narrative and God grew, the part I used as the image of this blog became my favorite.

It is a pivotal part of the story as Tevye and his traditions are tested yet again by one of his daughters. As Tevye does throughout the story, he begins talking to God. At first, it is a one-sided conversation of utter frustration until Tevye opens up his mind and heart that going against his traditions to make new traditions was, in deed, God’s plan all along.

So as Christmas and the New Year come around, remember Tevye as a reminder not to necessarily stay steadfast to our traditions. Be open and ready to be taught the lessons of old and new traditions regardless of how they started. Every ending is a beginning waiting to happen in this crazy, beautiful, never-ending story we call life. That is the true reason for the season, is it not? No matter what you believe or don’t believe, this time of the year marks new beginnings in one way or another.

Be merry and stay healthy, all!

What I’m Currently Working on

Currently, I am on my Christmas break with my online studies at SNHU. I finished my last term with A’s in both courses. My next term, which is my second to last term before graduating, begins Jan. 8th. Those two courses will be Advanced Fiction Writing and Seminar in American Literature. Other than that, I have been working on building this website further along with the accompanying Facebook page, which, if you haven’t followed yet seriously, you should by going here: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61554686300912; we have been sharing Christmas poems and favorite characters on there this month.

Author Recommendation

Although not entirely about Christmas, I felt it was within the right mood to share Long Live the Pumpkin Queen: Tim Burton’s The Nightmare Before Christmas as my recommendation this month. I read this sequel story to the classic Halloween and Christmas movie by Shea Ernshaw recently. The book very much follows the aesthetic of my brand and the site as it follows Sally struggling with her identity after marrying Jack and becoming the Pumpkin Queen. It is a beautiful self-discovery journey, and Ernshaw does a terrific job of capturing the essence of Nightmare Before Christmas and Sally while also building upon and making her own world. I highly recommend reading it!

Poem for the Month

This month on the Facebook page, I shared this: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/collections/101692/christmas-poems?fbclid=IwAR336b87krmN-Dwlo3dGGQMagF2nVpch4efYHw6b7fd4j7K53gfiRkTkfn8 and stated E.E. Cummings [little tree] as my favorite from the list. That said, it should be no surprise that [little tree] is this month’s poem. This masterful, beautiful little poem pulls at your heartstrings and tugs at the Christmas spirit I highly recommend you go check it out here:https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/47304/little-tree

JustLj in November

The Thankful Blog Post

November is the month of thanks. The time we give thanks. The time we are thankful. We celebrate Thanksgiving, stuffing our faces with food and preparing for Christmas and the New Year. For me this year I have a lot to be thankful for actually. I recently moved closer to family. I got back on medication for my mental health. I am exalling academically with my studies at Southern New Hamshire University (SNHU), still being on track to graduate this coming April.

Sure, there are things I am still stressed or worried about. Certain things that haven’t gone right/haven’t happened yet, but I am so thankful for the things that have gone right/happened. I am healthy both physically and mentally, more so than I have been in quite some time. I am surrounded by loved ones and a support system that is more quickly available to me for some time. My dogs, Duke and Hazel, are well and behaving so good given the chaos that has been moving and now the holidays. Honestly, life is pretty dang good right now. Small victories are big victories at the end of the day because we are all living small lives in a big world.

I don’t say this to sound dark but to enlighten and encourage you. It is so easy to beat ourselves up and drag us in the mud over such small things. Nobody is perfect. Trust me. I am such a self-doubter and infamous self-sabotage. It has taken me such a long time and through a crazy, twisty, sometimes dark road to be the more positive-thinking, optimistic, and open person I am today. A lot of that is mostly in part due to me finding my niche. My thing. Stories. Reading and writing, and poetry have always been my thing, but I tried to run from it. Hide from it. Make it bad somehow instead of embracing and being thankful for it. I encourage you all to do the same. Find your thing. Latch on to it, and I guarantee you will be better for it.

What I’m Currently Working on

Right now, I am on week six of eight in my current term at SNHU, taking two courses, NEW MEDIA: WRITING/PUBLISHING and INTERMEDIATE FICTION WRITING WORKSHOP. Both courses have been so fun and interesting. The NEW MEDIA class is what led me to create this website, which is a new experience but one I am excited about moving forward. The WORKSHOP is the second part of a three-part course of fiction writing workshops. I have just completed the second draft of my final project for the class, a short story entitled “The Last Storyteller,” which you can find an excerpt of in the Works/Works In Progress section of the website.

Author Recommendation

This Month I recommend reading Caitlin Schneiderhan, and specifically her Stranger Things novel Flight of Icarus. Schneiderhan is a writer of the acclaimed Netflix series and wrote this story following season four stand-out Eddie Munson. The book takes place two years before the events that take place in season four.

I am currently reading this and thoroughly enjoying it. I am a fan of the show, but Eddie Muson was a character that hit me hard. He reminded me a lot of myself. If you’re like me and Eddie resonated with you in season four, I highly recommend picking up Flight of Icarus because Schneiderhan writes him beautifully from screen to paper. Also, if you are chomping at the bits for season five of Stranger Things, stop ripping your hair out and pick up this book in the meantime. It may not have interdimensional monsters but it is a heart-filled story about a kid who everyone has pegged making his own destiny.

Poem for the Month

In the vein of the theme of this month, I have chosen to represent with Mark Doty’s “Brian Age Seven.” This poem begs the reader to be thankful for the little things. Check it out here: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/52470/brian-age-seven